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The Misuse of
Willpower
"Willpower" is romantically considered
to be the ultimate proof of emotional strength. We often associate
"Willpower" with a certain level of martyrdom or suffering that
entails championing over a dreaded task, deed or relationship.
In truth, many
misuse willpower to maintain suffering. Good examples of
this would be remaining in a job, or the continuation of a
relationship, that no longer brings us happiness. In these
instances personal integrity is sacrificed to satisfy a
perceived outward influence.
 "What would my
family think"
"How would I survive?"
Human beings tend to fool themselves that their martyrdom will in
some way produce divine rewards for all that misery, but in reality
emotional turmoil and eventual illness will be the only reward.
Jenny was
dealing with what many of us must deal with from time to time, a
problematic relationship within her office. No matter what
dialogues Jenny and the other female entered into, agreement
could never be reached and a domination match would result.
Jenny would find herself involved in any number of controlling
scenarios ranging from direct confrontation to confusing silent
treatments.
Jenny found that the situation was becoming all consuming. She
couldn't sleep at night and was now afraid of going into the
office for fear of a confrontation. Jenny was also fearful of
what others might be saying behind her back.
Jenny felt that she was rapidly losing the power she had worked
so hard to develop within the organization, and her depleting
success with listing sales was the reflection of this belief.
Jenny believed that she was exercising every bit of her
Willpower to stay in the job, because what she really felt like,
was fleeing for her life. This "other" woman was, in Jenny's
mind, was making her life totally miserable.
"She is attempting to undermine me in the office. I am powerless
to stop her because I am not good in confrontation. I feel
helpless and inferior."
Nobody Else Is
Responsible For How We Think Or Feel
Jenny learned through this program that
there was no such thing as one way domination, and that her
"feelings" and "reactions" were an intuitive signal to deal
with an unconscious issue within herself. She had also noted
that she was the only person in the office who reacted this way,
another sign that this was indeed a personal issue.
 Stepping Out Of The
Comfort Zone To See The Truth
Jenny called upon her Willpower to step
out of her comfort zone to look honestly at her own reactions, as
well as those of the other female.
Jenny realised that it was important to
"Complete", which meant looking into her past to identify where she
first learned to react in this fashion.
"Well my
mother undermined me all the time when I was a child. In fact
she never seemed to be happy with anything I did. If I protested
I was told to be quiet. I often felt helpless and inferior."
With this simple realization, Jenny
completed a long standing unconscious issue with her Mother, and her
transformation began. The next step was to detach from the other
woman's personality trait.
Jenny asked herself what tactics she used to retaliate and the penny
dropped.
"Oh my
goodness, I do exactly the same!"
Having now detached from the
"dramatics", Jenny was able to see the situation more clearly, and
realized that her colleague was dealing with many personal
difficulties outside of working hours due to a divorce.
Jenny also identified that she herself
had been so consumed with her own blame and emotions, that she had
not even considered entertaining compassion.
Blame vanished
and so did Jenny's fear of going into the office. Disarmed of
her former dominative retaliation, "as if by magic" the other
females' demeanor also altered within days, and the
confrontation ended.
Suffering Only Exists
As A Concept In The Mind
"True Willpower" recognizes that there
is no such thing as a trial or tribulation, only thoughts in the
mind of the bearer.
"True Willpower" provides us with the
opportunity to take the necessary actions to modify our thought
processes to move away from suffering forever.
"Willpower"
demonstrates
that there is ONLY personal reaction to be considered, and not
the words or behaviors of others. The secret is observing and
evaluating our own reactions and not making ourselves or anyone
else wrong.
"True Willpower" permits everything to
be just as it is, without forcible resistance. The more we fight to
be rid of a pain, negative emotions, or unwanted personal traits,
the more we will reinforce them.
Negative emotions
are merely a series of feelings that have been increased by
resistance or denial about an unconscious issue that requires
our attention.
 Willpower Is
Never A Victim.
Imagine how powerful a life free of inner or outer turmoil could
be. "Willpower" is just that! "True Willpower" gives us the power to
overcome the "Fear of Success" and the "Fear of Failure".
The "Laws of
Attraction" state that we only attract circumstances that have
lessons to be learned for our benefit.
Relationships are
not accidental, and particularly the more difficult ones are the
opportunity to identify the mirror of what we cannot accept
about our own personality.
To summarize this extract, take up your journal and consider your own levels of personal
Willpower.
Willpower Exercises
Ask yourself the following questions:
Question 1: If you dared to live a life that
you truly loved - what changes would you make?
Question 2: Where do you use
Willpower to remain stuck in any situation?
Question 3: Are you prepared
to do whatever it takes, to be free of outer control and gain
inner harmony?
Let's now move to the Seventh Factor of
Achievement
INTUITION
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