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Everybody
suffers from procrastination at some stage in their life.
It's as if
invisible chains hold us back from that which we know we should
do, but for whatever reason, we
don't... or at least, we wait until the
very last moment.
Powerful people learn to
overcome their procrastination traits, because procrastination
destroys our reputation of trust and reliability. To accomplish this
however, we must first understand what
procrastination
actually is.
The
most common forms of procrastination for most of us might
be:
Starting
a task ... Completing a task ... Arriving on time ... Saving
Money ... Following
through ... Paying Bills ... Packing In Smoking ... Losing Weight ... Getting
Fit ... Exiting A Relationship ...
When
procrastination occurs in our life it means we are
dealing with a personal rebellion against a dominating expectation.
If
you were a kid like most kids, odds are you were placed in situations
where you "Had
to make the bed", or "Had
to do the chore", or "Had
to brush your teeth", and if you didn't
there would be some sort of consequence to deal with. So you dragged
yourself off reluctantly to do what you Had
to do, but inside there was a distinct dislike, maybe even rebellion
towards the task at hand.
The
stronger the push ... the greater the resistance.
If
you are now an adult like most adults, odds are if you are confronted by a
similar situation today, where somebody vehemently expects
you to do something, you'll wait, and wait, and wait until the very last
minute ... just to dominate them back.
Procrastination
is where we have unwittingly regressed back to a child like rebellion
against a fictitious domination, in other words our "inner
child" is extending a large fat finger back to the expectation
at hand ...
A
very common cause of
procrastination can be
fear
... fear of real or
imaginary consequences, fear of rejection, fear of being wrong ...etc.
So
ask yourself ... who suffers the most from the emotional and respect penalties of procrastination?
You got it - Numero Uno! Our self.
The
First Step to
alleviating
procrastination
is a mental journey back to our childhood to identify the dominators,
(Mum, Dad Siblings and School etc) who helped us develop our intolerence
of expectation. Forgive
them! They had your best interests at heart.
The
Second Step is observing
and identifying
where the trait shows up in our life, and taking charge of our reluctance response. Observe
what, and whom you have attracted into your life, to keep
plugging you into these tendencies.
Get in touch with your self talk and feelings, and when you become aware
of that "Hey
let's do it later"
tug on your sleeve (which is often accompanied by a pit in the stomach), pointedly state to yourself
"Do
It Now! "
After all
you will never change what you are prepared to tolerate.
It's
as simple as that ... and everybody
admires someone who is on the ball.
Keep
this in mind when you're raising you're kids too!
Every
Success.
Source:
Pauline Douglas Programs > Time Intelligence
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