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Establishing
Just How Brainwashed We Really Are.
Did you know that most humans in our modern world do not actually
possess "self perception", in fact the majority of self concepts are
based upon the comparison or approval of other human beings?
Perception operates on three levels:
"How we perceive ourselves",
"How we perceive our world" and
"How we are perceived by others".
Perceptions is the movie
screen of our life, more commonly referred to as our "reality", "beliefs"
or "values".
Perception is something that we made up as a result of our life
experiences, and it can be our greatest ally, or biggest demise in
life.
 The
Subconscious Cannot Tell The Difference Between a Real or Imagined
Experience.
We are merely computers
that have had our realities programmed into our subconscious from
birth. The subconscious mind is the slave that blindly obeys every
command of the conscious and unconscious mind and cannot tell the
difference between a real or imagined experience.
What's more, we tend to place ourselves in situations and
environments that confirm our realities, so we find ourselves among
people who think, dress and behave the same way as we do.
We feel distinctly uncomfortable and untrusting of those who have
different realities to our own ... that is, until we become
aware of our misconceived perceptions.
Understanding Perception is recognizing that we,
and only we, should be in control of our self concepts and
realities. We can wake up to our every
day brainwashing and literally recreate
our realities and self perceptions.
The only difference between the
billionaire and park dweller is self perception. Both are human
beings with conscious and unconscious elements operating in their
lives that have determined their differing existences.
 Why
Do People Refuse To Wake Up From Their Illusion?
The driving "Belief" system can be so
strong, that not following the code could lead to punishment,
rejection or even execution.
Waking up to our conscious self means waking up from our many false
perceptions and belief systems.
This was Jane's third marriage.
Jane had chosen Frank because he was totally different to the first
two husbands.
Frank wasn't as handsome or smart as her first husband
Jack, but she was
pleased because she didn't have to keep looking over her shoulder to
see if some "gorgeous long legged tigress" was going to grab him
when she wasn't looking.
Even though her first husband Jack had never actually been unfaithful,
she had always been on guard, suspicious of his movements and
uncomfortably jealous of any woman who spoke even two words to him.
Jack would become angry and defensive at her regular accusations and
interrogations, and gradually his interest dissipated.
Just as she
"always knew", Jack ran off with another woman.
Frank wasn't as
lazy and unkempt as her second husband Bob. Frank was certainly
smarter and much more generous than Bob. Bob had never cleaned the house, cooked, made coffee and tea, washed
the dishes like Jack or Frank did. Frank had never been aggressive and
abusive like Bob (which is why that marriage had been a
particularly short one.)
Frank was amazing really. Her friends were in awe of how he just did
everything, and couldn't understand why Jane was not happy in this
relationship either.
"I feel so smothered!" Jane claimed. "I know
Frank does all
those things, but ... I feel I have no control on my life because he
is always picking up after me. He makes me feel incompetent and lazy.
Then whenever we have a disagreement, he always throws all that he does for me
up in my face like a martyr."
Like most of us, when Jane concluded that "this" type of
relationship didn't work for her, she tried something different. Is
it any wonder that so many marriages fail in this age of the Soap
Opera?
 Why
They Don't Make Us Happy
Relying upon other people and material
items for our self esteem, self worth and self
perception is co-dependent, and will always end up in
disappointment.
A relationship
should be used to teach us about ourselves, to improve
ourselves, and no other human being on this planet is
responsible for our happiness.
Instilling
Powerful Perceptions In Children
The Factor of Perception is vital to parents. We raise our children
with the hope that we nourish and nurture their futures. The one
single destroyer of a child's personality and future adult self
esteem is the fostering of false and destructive self perceptions.
Perception Exercises.
Question 1: Who or what am I attempting to
be?
Question 2: Where and when did I collect the perceptions of myself?
Were these sources true?
Question 3: What limitations have I set for myself as a result of my
self concepts?
Question 4: What, who, or which group do I
still permit, or rely upon, to alter my
self perceptions and self worth, even if they don't know it? around:
(a) money
(b) relationships
(c) abilities
Question 5: What individuals and groups do I
judge "a certain way" for their characteristics, and who would
judge me in the same fashion.
Let's now move to the Fourth Factor of
Achievement
EMOTIONAL STRENGTH
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